Sexual intercourse between two consenting adults does not come with a fixed sex of rules and, thus, there is no end to the number of possible sexual positions, kinks, fantasies, etc. As long as both you and partner remain open and communicate your desires clearly, you can make your own rules of how to lead your sexual likes. Popular culture can often make one question their sexual choices - romance movies can twist your perception of female pleasure, locker room talk can make you question the average durations of sexual intercourse and porn can set unrealistic expectations when it comes to how the natural human body looks. You may even wonder if you’re having enough sex, compared to others in your friend circle or not.

  1. How many times to have sex
  2. Best time of day or week to have sex
  3. When to start having sex in a relationship
  4. When and how often to have sex if trying to get pregnant
  5. Doctors for sexual disorders and issues

There is no exact number of number you need to be having sex, you can do it as often as it feels right to you or not a all if you don’t wish to. If you’re sexually active and not committed to one partner, you should be practising safe sex at all times and getting tested regularly for sexually transmitter diseases. You can use condoms and dental dams, even when engaging in oral sex or anal sex. In an exclusive sexual relationship, you should still maintain safety as much as possible. Over the year, if you wish to stop using protections, it’s best to get tested before you do and get a consultation from your doctor about the best birth control methods available to you. If you wish to conceive a child, you can begin to have unprotected sex after consuting your doctor. You may want to consider genetic testing before you start trying for a baby.

(Read more: How to get pregnant)

On an average, experts suggest that couples tend to have sex one or twice a week, depending on the age. Different research studies show different results though: while one study with 20,0000 participants indicates that couples have sex 1-2 times a month, another concludes that number is 2-3 times a month. Some studies have also linked the number of times a couple has sex to their happiness in the relationship; it found that those who have sex less than once a week aren’t as happy as those who have sex at least once a week. The only person who has a say in the number of times you have sex is your partner - discuss what their ideal number is, tell them yours. If both of you are not on the same page, think about it some more, continue to discuss it and hopefully you’ll find some middle ground eventually.

Concerning your health, sex and orgasms do come with many benefits, from improving heart health to reducing the chances of developing prostate cancer in men. A study found that ejaculating 21 or more times in a month could result in a 31% reduced risk of prostate cancer. This number could be achieved through a mix of sexual intercourse and masturbation.

The best time to have sex changes from couple to couple. You have your individual routines and preferences to factor in and it’s absolutely up to you and your partner to decide when you both want to engage in sexual activity.

(Read more: How to talk to your partner about sex)

Some couples prefer to schedule intimate time with each other while others choose to be spontaneous about it. There is no right or wrong way to go about this.

(Read more: Foreplay)

From a scientific point of view, evidence suggests that afternoons and morning are the ideal time for sexual intercourse. A study conducted in 2017 found the best time for sex to be 7:30 am in the mornings, which was about 45 minutes after the best time to wake up. These results were said to be because of stamina being high at this time and the resulting release of endorphins could set a positive mood for the rest of the day. The boost of testosterone experienced in the morning could also play a role.

(Read more: Natural home remedies to boost testosterone)

For opposite sex couples, afternooons are said to be a good time as the hormones of male and female partners are more in sync around this time. Experts say the sex would be more enjoyable at this time because estrogen levels are at a peak in the male partner, making them more emotionally present. In the meantime, cortisol levels in women are a peak, which provides a boost of energy and alertness.

(Read more: Tips for a healthy relationship)

New relationships can be complicated, especially when you’re confused about the sexual and physical part of it. Some people prefer to start having sex early in the relationship while others like to wait until they develop deeper feelings or feel more sure. This is best decided with your partner: be open about your wishes and keep an open mind when listening to theirs. Do not pressure them into getting on the same timeline as yours. Only once both of you are ready, is when it’ll be the best time for you to have sex.

(Read more: Tips for the first time you have sex)

When: To get pregnant, you need to first find out what the female partner’s fertile window is. Ovulation refers to the time period when the egg is released from the ovary and into the fallopian tube. It lasts for 12-24 hours but, in the best scenarios, the fertile window could potentially last upto 7-10 days after ovulation. These days, you can use an app (or an old school calendar if you prefer) to track when you’re ovulating. It would be ideal for you to have sex during this time to conceive a baby.

(Read more: Low sperm count)

How often: Increasing the frequency of sexual intercourse does ot gurantee that you will get preganant sooner; on the contrary, too much sex could affest the quality of the sperm. Experts suggest that have sex once is a day when trying to conceive is just enough.

(Read more: How to increase sperm count)

Dr. Abdul Haseeb Sheikh

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